What do I mean by being well resourced?
Well to me, it means having the ability to access resources, both externally and internally. To be well resourced means we have support in place, and we have become skilled in reaching for that support. In being well resourced we are not dependent on only one source of support. We have a support system and team, again both internally and externally, that we can turn to.
External resources….
Do we have people in place to feel well supported? And do these levels of support understand who we are, get us?
And the most important question to ask…can we reach out and ask for support?
External resources are friends, community, family, coaches, mentors, therapists, and other people you may hire or reach out to. External resources can also be pets or activities you do, like art or yoga. And external resources can be an actual place you can go to feel good or to recharge.
Internal resources are aspects of the Self that we can develop within ourselves and thereby turn to when in need. Here are some that I help my clients develop:
Nurturing resource is the internal voice or figure that can bring compassion and love to any experience you may be going through.
Protective resource is the part of you that is going to stand up for your needs and boundaries. It is the resource that ignites a sense of protection when needed.
Wise resource is the aspect of yourself that has wisdom. This is the part of Self that is going to think before acting and see how to best approach a situation.
Spiritual resource is your connection with something greater than yourself. Whatever that may be for you.
One way that you can become more connected with these resources for yourself is to think of ways you are the nurturing parent, the protective friend, or the one that has the wisdom. How do these already show up in your life, in your relationships? How are you already accessing your spirituality?
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I first discovered how powerful it can be to identify resources as Self rather than someone else (for example me as nurturing supportive wife) from advanced EMDR training with Shirley Jean Schmidt. Total game changer because the idea is that these are aspect of the Self. We just need to enhance and turn to them.
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I learned about the benefit of using these specific internal resources from Laurel Parnell. Her book Tapping In is a great one to help you learn how to enhance the resources.
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